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Allan Beveridge

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August 8, 2014 - Being of service to others
« on: August 08, 2014, 10:14:27 PM »
We all know that everyone of us has challenges and issues in life, it is part of the nature of our existence. We can also be looking out and see people doing things we believe are either hurting them or others and want to get to change or help them do so, thinking that will help them and that everyone will be better off.

We may even apply the same thinking towards what we see going on in our community, country or globally. Examples would be wanting to see more people dealing with issues of pollution or global warming or with geo-political issues and so on. The problem is that none of us individually can change any of these things, not for one person, a city, country or the world.

What we can do is work on ourselves. Yes, I know it's an old refrain, but that doesn't reduce the value of it. There are times when I too feel the desire to help others change and to reduce the "wrongness" I may perceive in others or the world. I think it is something that we all experience at times. That said, I do it far less than I used to mostly because I have come to understand that people are doing exactly what they need to be doing, experiencing what they need to be experiencing in their lives. Even the "bad stuff" each of us experiences is part of our growth as sometimes we need that to figure out what we ought to be doing. Also this is one life so there is lots to learn and it takes time ... we cannot learning "everything at once".

We need to bear in mind that focused growth is not a high priority for many even if it may be the case for us. Most are "busy living their lives" and so tend to make "adjustments" as life presents challenges or opportunities to them. There is NOTHING wrong with ... "to each according to their need and in their own time."

Now, that is not to say we cannot help others on their path, though to be effective at it we need to pay attention to a couple of things. One being the work we are doing on our own stuff and second aligning ourselves with a "higher purpose". I wrote about this in the series Awakening Our Gifts (mostly in the last two parts).

You can find the first part of the series at the below link and there are links at the bottom of each to the next part

By working on ourselves we clear the debris from our own minds and thus our energy field. By doing so we start to "see" more clearly and our intuition and awareness improve. Another benefit is that we reduce our ego and thus our own needs and desires. This is quite important because until we do so we are always operating on what we "think" rather than that "internal knowing."

As we do the first thing we then can start to shift away from the notion of personal will to universal will. That means shifting from serving ourselves to serving ALL. Doing this develops our patience, compassion, sympathy and devotion and our capacity to be unconditionally loving. When we start to move along this path we get information on people that we can use to guide our efforts to help them. We also start to "know" what to say/do and when and when not to do so as to be of the most benefit to others. When we do so this way our words have more power and a greater impact on them. People need to be ready to hear certain things before they can take advantage of "knowledge" for, as they say, to each in their time and according to their needs and not ours.

Purging our wants and desires for others is critical otherwise we are not helping them for their benefit, we are trying to help them through the filter of our own needs and wants. There is another saying worth remembering, namely that "When the student is ready the teacher will come." I firmly believe that when we do the two things I mentioned we are better able to do and be both...

There is a limit to what each of us can do. There is the old story that "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink". So, if that is the case then the question is how best to "encourage" them to drink?, that is what can we do to be of greater services to another or others? If we have worked on our own "stuff" and are aligned ourselves as I suggested then we have to, among other things:

Be clearly "seeing" the full situation in the moment
"Know" (using our intuition) what would be their best interests
Understand what they can and cannot do at the moment
Be patient and compassionate with them

And we need to remember their part in the "equation", namely...

Is it the right time for the advice?
        Are they willing to hear the advice?
        Are they ready to hear the advice?
Are they willing to act on it?
Are they able to act on it?

Hence, we must consider what it takes for each of these to be possible on our part and that of others...

When we are willing to be service others...
When our focus is everyone's best interests...
When we are in the moment and not burdened by our overbearing minds/ego...
When we operate from a place of pure compassion and love for others...

... we can help to make the world a better place for All.

What do you think about this topic or about my thoughts on it?

Allan Beveridge